I met Luke skywalker today (: I love Star Trek!
Don’t be rude….. Why can’t I be a Trekkie and proud? “Falcon Punch!!!” Amiright?
Just incase this isn’t a joke. Harrison Ford played Han Solo in Star wars
No sweetie……. You’re confused…….. You’re thinking about Yoda from Star Fox (:
have you ever known somebody so shitty they completely ruin that first name for you?
Today was an exceptional day.
White supremacy in action.
He’s like ‘WTF is that noise? Is that you? Nah it’s outside…… Nah it’s definitely you!! by Stuggy
Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, "Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"
I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.
I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”
Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.
Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.
It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.
It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.
Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:
Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.
Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.
Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.
Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”
TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:
- You do not respect their rights as an individual.
- You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.
- You probably haven’t been listening to them.
Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.
Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.
nope im not a fully grown adult sir, no sir
SHOUT-OUT TO ALL MY FRIENDSHIPS ON TUMBLR WITH TEENAGERS
YOU ALL HAVE BETTER BLOGS THAN I DO
YOU ARE THE FUTURE AND I AM OKAY WITH THAT
‘omg I love you you are so kind and aaaaah how old are you’
‘16 how old are you?’
I think this when I’m chatting with people on here and then look at their blog description and its like ‘16/17’ and I’m like holy shit you are the same age as my baby sister what the hellllll
Yeah but for those of us who have older tumblr friends, thank.
speaking as a 17 year old, trust me when i say it means a lot when 20-somethings on tumblr treat us with respect and take us seriously because god knows no one else older than us does
Yes I second this
*sweats* This happens to me in REAL LIFE. With COSPLAY FRIENDS. IT’S SO BANANAS.
Like I can’t tell if the teenagers are just extra mature, or if I’m just extra immature.
Im 27. I dont know if that’s too old for this place, but i like it and i like quite a few of the people here. Even the ones im a decade older than.
I’M GOING TO BE 57 AND STILL POST DUMB DRAWINGS ON THE CURRENT SOCIAL MEDIA SITE LIKE YEAH LOOK AT GRANDMA’S OPT SONNY